The 5 Myths Of Resilience
Research on Resilience is growing. Where healthy living in particular was previously associated with a healthy body, more and more attention is paid to the importance of a healthy mind. It is a resilient mind that helps you to deal better with changes and challenges. The better you do this, the more happiness and satisfaction you will experience at work or at home.
More and more is being written about Resilience, but it is not always well understood. And that is unfortunate, because this can lead to seeing yourself or others as less mentally fit than you actually are. And this while you may already be so good!
1. I do or I do not have it
Resilience is not a congenital trait that you do or do not have. It can be divided into a number of skills such as problem solving, empathy, emotions and optimism. People have some and some do not, or lean more on one or the other. For example, someone who is good at problem solving can handle a project full of unforeseen developments. But in the case of negative feedback, he may have been beaten up because he has trouble managing his emotions. By splitting Resilience into different competences you will find out where you are already strong and where you can further develop. A path for everyone, but all the same result; a better mental condition.
2. I must be able to do it alone
In the end you have to do it yourself, but why would that also mean that you can not invoke help from others? Having a network that supports you emotionally increases your self-confidence and self-reliance. This makes you stronger to only meet your challenges. If you have a hard time, do not worry about yourself, but use the support of others to find your way forward.
3. I can not have negative emotions
Being resilient does not mean that you have a life without problems and negative emotions. The difference is precisely that resilient people handle this differently. There will always be moments that make you sad, frustrated or angry. Resilience means that you recognize these emotions and know how to deal with them effectively. Not by not wanting to feel them anymore but by taking something else against it. For example, problem-solving ability can help find solutions and optimism can balance negative feelings by countering positive feelings.
4. I must be able to return immediately
Resilience is not a constant. Not every challenge is the same and you too are not the same day. Sometimes it will be easier for you to go off than at other times. Do not be disappointed if you do not manage to face a challenge right away. Investigate what is going on, and try out different things. As mentioned, your mental condition consists of different competencies. See which strong competencies can help you and which you can develop to get stronger out of this. Experiment.
5. Resilience is only necessary if something really bad happens
Large traumas are not very common in a lifetime. Strengthening your Resilience seems like a waste of time if you do not even know if and when it happens. But in reality it is the daily challenges that gnaw our physical and emotional health. Every day we are asked to do more with less, to balance work and private life, to endure fear of reorganisations and job losses, to bring children back and forth - to mention just a few daily obligations. Resilience is not only necessary for disaster, but it helps us to deal better with the everyday stress. And this is the key to our health and performance.
How Resilient Are You?
We all love stories about people who have mastered problems and have emerged more successful. Only, it is important to realize that their growth did not originate from the problem they were presented with, but by the way they dealt with it. And this is Resilience. Curious about your own Resilience? Taste what works for your Resilience building for you.